Heartbreak Revival

To whoever can relate:

When people whom you consider your loved ones disappoint you, it can be a painful experience. Disagreements and differences in opinions may turn into damaging words. Verbal attacks and judgment can destroy any bond that is meant to be sacred. Anger takes over, and we can’t seem to let go of things that were said. Ruthless opinions can turn into words that you can never take back. Lack of emotion can quickly flush a relationship down the drain, taking with it years of memories that you can never salvage.

We tend to justify harmful behaviors from the ones we love. We conveniently use the “that’s just how they are” excuse to accept their shortcomings. Most of us are left to decide whether we accept the person as they are. You may try your best to fix what’s broken, but sometimes you just hit a wall and cannot communicate any further. Even a simple "let's agree to disagree" does not pacify the situation. This is when your happiness is at stake. Now you have a decision to make. Do you continue putting yourself in a place where you know you’ll hurt at the end of the encounter? Or do you opt for distance? Away from the hurtful words, and the senseless bickering. Do you choose to walk away from the brick wall that you’ve tried to climb over, walk around, even take down brick by brick? Only to find out that the other person has been rebuilding it with fresh cement? This person is supposed to be a loved one; you’re expected to cherish this relationship until the end of time. But it seems impossible to mend, considering that it would be at your emotional expense.

What happens when the person does not acknowledge how their actions send you on a tornado of depression and feelings of despair? Sometimes it’s just not worth it. You deserve better than that. You deserve to be happy. Don’t live in the negativity someone has put upon you. After you’ve given all you can give, walk away from the hurt. Don’t subject yourself to any more pain. Go to therapy. Find an outlet. Focus on the rest of your life. Whatever you do, don’t dwell on those feelings for long. Don’t suppress them. Face them head on, as hard as it may be. Talk it out, speak your feelings out loud to someone and do it often. The more you talk about it, the better it’ll help you accept the situation for what it is and allows you to move on. Healing comes with time. Surround yourself with positivity, and it’ll come full circle. You can choose to love someone from afar. You can learn to accept people for who they are at arm’s length if it means you’ll be protecting your sanity.

I hope this helps revive your broken heart.