Heartbreak Revival

To whoever can relate:

When people whom you consider your loved ones disappoint you, it can be a painful experience. Disagreements and differences in opinions may turn into damaging words. Verbal attacks and judgment can destroy any bond that is meant to be sacred. Anger takes over, and we can’t seem to let go of things that were said. Ruthless opinions can turn into words that you can never take back. Lack of emotion can quickly flush a relationship down the drain, taking with it years of memories that you can never salvage.

We tend to justify harmful behaviors from the ones we love. We conveniently use the “that’s just how they are” excuse to accept their shortcomings. Most of us are left to decide whether we accept the person as they are. You may try your best to fix what’s broken, but sometimes you just hit a wall and cannot communicate any further. Even a simple "let's agree to disagree" does not pacify the situation. This is when your happiness is at stake. Now you have a decision to make. Do you continue putting yourself in a place where you know you’ll hurt at the end of the encounter? Or do you opt for distance? Away from the hurtful words, and the senseless bickering. Do you choose to walk away from the brick wall that you’ve tried to climb over, walk around, even take down brick by brick? Only to find out that the other person has been rebuilding it with fresh cement? This person is supposed to be a loved one; you’re expected to cherish this relationship until the end of time. But it seems impossible to mend, considering that it would be at your emotional expense.

What happens when the person does not acknowledge how their actions send you on a tornado of depression and feelings of despair? Sometimes it’s just not worth it. You deserve better than that. You deserve to be happy. Don’t live in the negativity someone has put upon you. After you’ve given all you can give, walk away from the hurt. Don’t subject yourself to any more pain. Go to therapy. Find an outlet. Focus on the rest of your life. Whatever you do, don’t dwell on those feelings for long. Don’t suppress them. Face them head on, as hard as it may be. Talk it out, speak your feelings out loud to someone and do it often. The more you talk about it, the better it’ll help you accept the situation for what it is and allows you to move on. Healing comes with time. Surround yourself with positivity, and it’ll come full circle. You can choose to love someone from afar. You can learn to accept people for who they are at arm’s length if it means you’ll be protecting your sanity.

I hope this helps revive your broken heart.

Your own worst enemy.

Getting in your own way is something we all do in a variety of occasions. Sometimes we might not realize we’re doing just that. It can take a lot of face plants to unlearn bad habits and personality traits that make us end up with eggs on our faces time and time again. Why is it that some of us take so long to learn from our mistakes? Why does it seem like we never learn our lessons?

Negative interactions from our childhoods can leave us scarred and unprepared to deal with all the different personality types in this world. Mix that with remnants of toxic romantic relationships, and you end up with a recipe for emotional disaster. These circumstances lead to sabotaging friendships with stubbornness and lack of trust. We put our guards up with defensiveness and confrontation. Along the way, people are left feeling resentful and unworthy. The ability to self-reflect is a major key to combating the cycle of failed friendships. No one likes to feel alone, but it takes work to recognize our shortcomings.

To be able to fix something, you have to figure out what’s broken. It may not be easy to find, and by the time you realize what it is, you may have ruined plenty of relationships. Luckily there’s a thing called forgiveness. You’d be surprised how forgiving people are. There is great power in acknowledging how you hurt someone and recognizing their pain. A simple “I am sorry I did or said that. I know I hurt you,” can change the dynamic of a pair immensely. Hopefully, the person on the receiving end can accept it and put a stop to any communication block that has built up in time. The relationship may never be the same, but at least both parties can let go of negative feelings and move on. They may even be able to build a new relationship.

Carrying negative emotional baggage takes a toll on you mentally and physically. Feelings of resentment and anger don’t go away easily, especially when you choose to hold a grudge. You don’t want to end up being a damaged person that no one can get close to. Focus on getting to a place where you can connect with someone on a personal level once again.

Bumble Bee themed baby shower

Hi everyone! 

I'm new to the blog life and because I'm a new mom I recently decided to start some kind of blog. I did some browsing and at first I was going to focus my thoughts and type them into a mommy blog but decided to go against it. The thing is I don't want to be solely recognized for being a mom. As you read some of my blogs you'll see that here's so much more to me than just being a mom. Don't get me wrong, I love the online mommy community and I see it as a great support system but I would probably feel a little constricted if I was to stick to that forum. One of my joys in life is creating things. I love all kind of arts and music. Although I'm not that talented, I can come up with some pretty cool ideas. Because of this, I want to share how I was able to accomplish a bumble bee themed baby shower with the help of my best friend. Naturally, we browsed Pinterest and Etsy which are great sites for party-planning ideas.The theme seems to be pretty popular these days but when I was searching for ideas there weren't too many that appealed to me. Call me picky! Either way, this is my opportunity to share some of the pictures of my baby shower along with tips to stick with the theme. The bee theme worked out perfectly for my spring time shower.

I found plenty of shower invite templates on Etsy, I love that site! You can literally find anything and the service is awesome! I cropped out personal information but just wanted to show you an example.

Bee themed cake and a few snacks to match the black and yellow theme colors.

Centerpieces were made with mason jars, different types of sunflowers, pebbles and some moss-like stuff to take up space haha. All gathered from the craft store of course. I wish I had a better close up picture, this one really doesn't do it justice. (Note the burlap cloth table runner for a rustic feel.)

We found a really easy cake pop recipe online and made them from boxed cake mix of different flavors, and dipped them in already dyed melted chocolate. We then placed them on a standard  cupcake stand and decorated it with ribbons and burlap cloth. 

These were really easy chocolate dipped Oreos, continuing with the black and yellow theme. We then placed them in these cute, rustic baskets. 

Small flower details and bees really brought together the idea. 

This was my treat table with a honey comb design wall drop and burlap banner. "Sweet as Honey" letters made with a Cricut, that thing is amazing I advise you to buy one if you're into DYI projects. 

This was my accent table where we placed the party favors, and "guess the due date" calendar, baby pics of myself and my other half as babies and other small details.

These were my party favors: small mason jars with cloth and burlap stamped with "thank you". Tied the cloth with rope to keep it in place and to add detail. I filled them with honey and included an expiration date on the bottom. I ordered the jars and tiny honey dippers off amazon. Amazon Prime is a literal godsend!

Of course none of it would've been possible without my best friend and personal even coordinator Stephanie. Luh you much. And everyone else around me the provided nothing but love and support in celebrating the arrival of our child. You know who you are. Special thanks to the photographer: Kerry Joseph with Nexxdesigns out of CT for the beautiful pictures! 

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Defining your life's purpose: Reflecting on living versus existing.

As we go through life, we experience highs and lows. Professional or financial gains can catapult you so high and make you feel as if you’re on top of the world. The lows, having the opposite effect, will drag you through some very dark times that’ll make you question your self-worth. The years go by, adding silver wisdom. As your emotional intelligence develops, you learn from your trials and achievements. Eventually, you start to mold to your circumstances like a chameleon, effortlessly changing with every surrounding.

Some believe your mindset determines your progression. Others believe in structural pre-determination of social class and attainable opportunities. Although both these things combined greatly have an effect on the level of success one can attain, happiness works on different terms.

Wealth or social status are small aspects of life that may or may not determine one’s happiness. Some people believe money doesn’t mean much when you don’t have loving relationships around you. Others believe money will make all situations better as if it’ll make all their problems go away. Everyone has their truth.

I’d like to focus on the bigger picture here. We create our lives the way we want it. We commit to jobs, prioritize certain things, ignore others. We tend to care about ourselves and our families, while at the same time devoting our lives to helping others. We all choose different paths. We also overthink daily situations and parts of our lives which we, ourselves have created. All the complications are our own doing. Some can cope with it and others can not. But I wonder about the things that could be accomplished if instead, we devoted some of the time that we spend sorting our issues and working on things that make us happy.

The way I see it, many human lives have come and gone since the beginning of time. We only get one. Lives are taken, spent, and surrendered on a daily basis. Let’s face it; things happen, and people die. I don’t plan on getting spiritual here, but I can’t help but feel like I wouldn’t want my life to be a waste. And yes, people have great lives from childhood to adulthood: marriage, children, grandchildren, successful careers and so on. But none of us would want to be old and sickly regretting what we did not get to do while we still had the chance. Wasting time and still over thinking. When I’m old, I don’t want to have a care in the world. I want to be satisfied completely by the choices that I made toward having my life the way I want it. I don’t want to worry about having enough money for retirement. I just want to do what I want.

Forget society standards, and don't listen to people who try to tell you what you should and should not do. Do what makes you happy. Live this one life to the fullest. You may be surprised with your potential. You may find your own unique purpose and legacy. Something your future bloodline can be proud of, as different from the norm as it may be. Just own your existence.